Time for reflection: Body, mind and purpose

Time flies when you are having fun! I realized, I have not created any content for my blog in almost two years. With more time on my hands, due to COVID-19 and less traveling, I have doubled-down on building better habits and routines for myself. I often reflect on where I am, and where I want to be. Who do I want to become? Even more so with COVID-19 when I, the extreme extrovert, were left with …. me. As a true consultant, there is always a framework for ‘being the best version of yourself’ – and I have borrowed this from the firm. It consists of three areas: body, mind and purpose. I have committed to creating a mini series of posts on some of the topics, and how I continue to work on improving myself. My first post in this series will be around Sleep & recovery.

“I have doubled-down on building better habits and routines for myself”

Body – Sleep & recovery: Process of restoration and renewal for the mind and body which is crucial for mood, energy and cognitive abilities.

Last year I bought a ring to track my sleep. I was intrigued by the features of this smart little device. It measures my heart rate, heart rate variability, temperature deviations, type of sleep and so much more. Here is a snapshot of my sleep the past 12 months:

Ugh, September was not a good month. Sleep deprivation messed with my ability to focus and concentrate, and I felt it. I did not need a device to tell me that. Still, I probably would not have paid too much attention to it or reflected on my progress, if I had not documented it. I have a nice average of seven hours of sleep per night, and I feel like I am the best version of myself with more than seven hours of sleep. According to researchers, a full night of high quality sleep help increase one’s ability to learn and retain memories.

When we talk about sleep, there are really only two types of sleep: 1) Rapid-eye-movement (REM) sleep, also called “dream sleep, which produces brain-wave activity similar to when the brain is awake. 2) Non-rapid-eye-movement (NREM) sleep, during which the brain produces steady, rhythmic waves that differ from both the REM phase and the waking brain. Below is a snapshot of my sleep, which is divided into awake time, REM, light and deep sleep. I got a 7h 57 min of sleep, which was divided into 1h 50 min of REM sleep and 2h 50 min of deep sleep. Pretty decent!

My resting heart rate tells me, whether I have been good or bad. A high resting heart rate indicates I ate my dinner too late, drank alcohol or perhaps a lack of exercise during the day. It makes me conscious of my behaviour in the late PM. Another thing I worked on is to track and improve my REM sleep. I have done all sorts of things which includes lowering the room temperature, sleeping with a mask, not drinking alcohol, and eating magnesium before going to bed, etc. It is a fun hobby for me to look at the data and see how I can improve it.

Did you know:

  • Sleep is a time of memory consolidation, brain and neurochemical cleaning, and cognitive maintenance
  • 40% of people get less than 7 hours of sleep per night (people need on avg. 7 – 9 hours of sleep)
  • 30% of adults have a hard time falling asleep, and about 10% meet the diagnostic criteria for chronic insomnia
  • A 30 min nap can reverse the hormonal impact of a night of poor sleep
  • Pulling an all-nighter results in cognitive impairment equal to 0.1% blood alcohol level – equal to being legally drunk

The key to a good night’s sleep is to practice a good sleep hygiene. Here is my recipe for a good night’s sleep, which seem obvious at first hand, but is hard to follow:

  • Stick to a schedule of sleeping and waking times every day
  • Avoid heavy meals, caffeine and alcohol at night
  • Dim artificial lights, turn off all your screens 1 hr before going to bed
  • Keep your room temperature low at night (e.g., 16-19 degrees Celsius)
  • Make sure your room is pitch black (e.g., dark curtains)
  • … other minor tips and tricks:
  • Use a silk eye mask and ear plugs
  • Restrict apps from 11pm-7am (screen time > downtime and app limits)
  • Meditate for 10-15 min before going to bed
  • Download the app Flux for your phone and laptop
  • Get a wake-up light alarm clock (e.g., Philips wake-up light)

Furthermore, I highly recommend Matthew Walker’s book “Why we Sleep”. It gave me a good understanding of the wide-ranging negative effects of sleep deprivation, and it made me prioritize counting sheep. If you are living a busy life and want to have my key take aways, feel free to comment below, and I will get them straight to your inbox.

Post South Korea thoughts

Woo, what a journey, what a joyride!

I spent the last 10 days in my birth country Korea, where I was invited to speak at Korea’s most prestigious conference, Asian Leadership Conference, together with my friends from MIT Bootcamps Andrew Ngui, Ning Shirakawa and Sungwon Yang! Not only did I get a chance to inspire people and talk about Relationship Building, I also got to stay at my (Danish) family’s house, meet shaper friends and visit the orphanage, where I spent the first 2.5 months of my life!

I decided to extend my stay with one week, as Chosun Ilbo, Korea’s biggest newspaper, wanted to feature my story and help me find my birth family! As some of you may know, I have tried to find my birth parents without any luck. With more than 10m views, I hope my story will reach my birth parents.

These days have been truly mind-boggling, and I am so grateful for my life, my family and friends! Thanks for all your support!

Startup life vs. consulting

I want to live in a world where freedom of choice is uninhibited and people have equal opportunities to realize their dreams.

How do I make sure that I advance towards my promise and the above-mentioned vision? I believe there are three options: Consulting, a startup or joining a startup. There are benefits and drawbacks to all options. First, I thought a lot about consulting. In this field, I will be able to work on different projects and for different companies. There are clear work procedures and structured, and I will be among talented colleagues. When I look into the startup world, I know I will have more responsibility, and I will be able to have an octopus role (widespread area of different tasks).

Several of my friends who were consultants left their job to build their own businesses. I guess it is not a surprising move, as consultants, as well as entrepreneurs, share same similar traits:

  • Leadership: Consultants manage different teams to achieve a common goal. Entrepreneurs must lead and motivate others in order to deliver a certain vision.
  • Interpersonal and communication: All my friends who are consultants are excellent communicators. If one wants to be a successful entrepreneur, it is vital to be competent in all types of communication in order to sell one’s vision to others.
  • Negotiation: People with consulting experience generally have strong negotiation skills as they deal with different clients with different goals, requirements, and personalities. An entrepreneur must be good at negotiating with all types of people and stakeholders in order to run the business.
  • Optimism and persistence: Consultants are generally known to be go-getters and high-achievers, and they are very persistent in their behavior. I see the same trait in my entrepreneurial friends. The eternal persistence and optimism, both during good and bad times.

Enough Sunday reflections for now… Happy Easter everyone!

At være (on)line

I vores samfund i dag er de fleste konstant online og tilgængelige. Vi har alle vores mobiltelefoner med os i lommen (hvor de hører hjemme), og hvis man har glemt den, udløser det et ramaskrig eller følelsen af, at man mangler en del af sig selv. Ifølge PEW Research Center’s, er unge i aldersgruppen mellem 18-29 dem der er allermest online, hvoraf 36% af disse også indikerer, at de er på internettet konstant. Herudover viser studier også, at 27% af de voksne sms’er imens de kører, og 75% skriver fra toilettet.

Takket være 4G kan vi nu dele og tage del i hverdagens småglæder hos venner og bekendte 24/7. Oven i dette modtager vi også en lind strøm af beskeder og notifikationer over mobilen: Facebook, WhatsApp, LinkedIn, Snapchat, Workplace, og mails. Hver gang jeg får en notifikation føles det som om, at appen nærmest råber “Hey, look at me, look at me!”, og det stopper ikke før, at jeg har fået gennemset alle mine apps. Det er skruen uden ende, og inden man ser sig om, så gik der lige en halv time. Det resulterede i, at jeg valgte at slette alle mine sociale medie apps for at slippe for alle notifikationerne. Det føltes rart, altså lige indtil det ikke gjorde. Så gik jeg og tænkte, at jeg måtte gå glip af et eller andet (fear of missing out, også kaldet fomo). En uge senere var mine apps tilbage på telefonen. Facebook, Snapchat, Instagram, WhatsApp… hele baduljen.

Der skulle derfor en ny strategi til for at komme notifikationerne til livs. Jeg slog derfor ALLE notifikationer fra, og mine mails skulle jeg selv aktivt ind at hente. HA HA. I WIN! Det var netop lige dét, der skulle til. Nu blev jeg i hvert fald ikke forstyrret midt i min morgenkaffe. Jeg tog mig dog stadigvæk i at tjekke de forskellige apps. Denne gang lidt mere kontrolleret og ikke nær så sporadisk som før. Min skærmtid blev dog ikke væsentlig forbedret. Jeg satte derfor min telefon til sort/hvid mode. Det hjalp. Min telefon er hermed erklæret fuldstændig uinteressant af min hjerne.

Hvorfor er det, at man bliver så afhængig af ens telefon? Ifølge Psychology Today kan vi skyde skylden på dopamin. Der bliver udløst små skud af signatstoffet dopamin, når vi får en notifikation på telefonen. Din telefon påvirker dig, da der sker en kemisk reaktion i hjernen, og den gør dig afhængig. Gør dig selv og din hjerne en tjeneste, slå dine notifikationer fra.

Spørgsmål til at slutte af på:

Hvor tit tjekker du din telefon? Ifølge Ericssson tjekker de mest mobilaktive deres telefon mellem 100-150 gange om dagen (altså ca. hvert 7. minut)